If there is one thing that we are not having a shortage of it’s experts. No matter what the issue whether big or small you can throw a stone and more than likely hit some sort of supposed expert on the topic. Is the topic of national attention? Quick, grab an expert and put them on TV! Problems in your marriage? Fear not, there is an army of counselors and social workers at the ready to “help” you with their expertise. There’s only one problem with this: all of these experts are actually useless which when you think about it isn’t really all that surprising. Consider; to become an expert and receive your official title of expert on a piece of paper that you can hang on the wall, you must first complete several levels of
indoctrination from the Jewish controlled higher education. Of course this means that the only thing they are actually experts in is promoting ideas and solutions that support the narrative which also just so happen to mean the destruction of your society and you. Here is just a random example of many where we can see a supposed expert working tirelessly to give sound advice that falls in line with the narrative.
I’ve been together with my wife for nine years, married just over three. She was a soccer player, very fit, and exactly what I wanted from a wife so I stuck with her. But she gained 80 pounds about two years into our relationship. I always saw her working it out and getting back to her old self. Instead, she has regressed further, both physically and personality-wise, whereas I am very driven and active and want to experience all I can in life. I’m at the point where if she doesn’t take things seriously soon, I’ll want a divorce. Is this wrong of me to want a deeper connection and attraction? I’ve given so much time to waiting without result.
This is all too common a problem so one would think that at this point the answers would be pretty straight forward. Guy marries a woman who in short order totally lets herself go. Forget all of this about “Oh but you’re supposed to love her no matter what”, yeah try quitting your job and laying on the couch gaming all day and see how long she sticks with that line. The fact is that men are wired towards physical attraction so when his wife purposely becomes unattractive she sends him a message that she is no longer interested in him beyond whatever assets she can extort via the one sided marriage contract. Save me the bullshit tears and “What do you mean intentionally?” You don’t wake up one day and you’re 80 fucking pounds overweight by accident. This guy’s choices are few and none of them are exactly real good. He can either A. keep his stuff and just resign himself to a no sex marriage unless he can drink heavily enough to get it up for rolling around on one of those mechanical bull things or B. give her all his stuff which she didn’t earn and start all over again. If he’s young enough option B is probably the better way to go but as you get on in years it starts to become unfeasible to start all over living like a college student out of a micro apartment.
Save me the lines about how he needs to lay down the law etc., if she was worried about any of that she wouldn’t have become a fat tub of shit to begin with. Now, let’s see what sort of answers the so called expert has.
It’s funny: We live in a culture where this is a taboo topic. It’s “fat shaming,” we should all be happy with our bodies the way they are, and so on.
And to be honest, I’d feel a lot more comfortable with this question if the sexes were reversed and it was a wife complaining about a husband.
Damn we’ve just started and I already hate this faggot. So from the get go he admits that he’s not comfortable criticizing anything when it comes to women and really wishes the roles were reversed so he could hand out some tough love to a slovenly husband.
Google “my spouse got fat.” Hundreds of online forums pop up. You tend to hear more from the women, and the common thread is along the lines of: “I love my husband, he has a great personality, but he’s become a tubby hubby and refuses to do anything about it. Now I’m finding I’m not attracted to him and thinking of leaving him. What do I do?”
It’s been a problem for me, too, I won’t lie. My wife loves me, we’re soulmates, but I’ve always wrestled with my weight. And I know my wife has wrestled with it (my weight) too.
WFT does this even have to do with the guy’s question?! I guess since he didn’t get the question he wanted he’s just going to pretend he did.
Have a problem? Ask this guy, he’s an expert. Of course if the question doesn’t fit into the narrow social confines that make him feel comfortable he’ll just pretend that you asked something completely different.
Time passes and wrinkles and grey hair happen to everyone, but she has the right to a reasonable facsimile of the hot guy she married.
This isn’t about you and your wife who is probably fucking the gardener.
Or at least someone who’s trying. And I do: I go to the gym (I live across the street from one, so I really have no excuse), watch what I eat. I fight the fight.
“Dear Eddie, I have a problem and I’d sort of like to get some advice on it but not nearly as bad as I’d like to hear all about you…………..”
(Cyril Connolly famously said: “Imprisoned in every fat man, a thin one is wildly signalling to be let out.” But Kingsley Amis was truer and funnier, I think: “Outside every fat man is an even fatter one trying to close in.”)
Dude, seriously the question was not from a woman about a fat husband. Did you even read the freaking question?
Which leads me to your question.
Two words jump out: “regressed” and “divorced.”
Are you sure it’s not a medical or psychological issue? If so, she should see a shrink or a doctor prontissimo.
So he finally gets around to addressing the actual question, after having shared what he had for Thanksgiving dinner and an inventory of his wife’s broom closet. And when he does finally get to it what does he open with? Excuses; she might be sick, she may need to see a doctor or a psychologist it’s probably not her fault and since you assumed it was you’re probably a real dick of a husband.
If you were a real caring husband you would understand what she’s going through.
If not – well, it’s unclear if you’re communicating your concerns, or the gravity of your concerns, but if you aren’t you should start to do so immediately.
I’m quite sure he’s made his displeasure clear. When the guy says, “If she doesn’t start taking this seriously…..” it would tend to imply that he’s voiced his concerns and she’s like, “Hmmm let’s see he can either put up with it and keep paying for all of my shit or he can divorce me and I get all of his shit without having to listen to him complain. Decisions decisions.”
But you have to do it gently, tactfully. Gaining weight can be a vicious cycle: you get fatter, you get depressed about it, gain more weight, etc.
Yes, you mustn’t upset her highness, Queen Lotsafat.
You have to help her, not hurt her. It’s a fine line between insulting and “fat shaming” a person and making them even more depressed and self-conscious, and encouraging and praising them into getting their old self/mojo back. It takes delicacy and diplomacy. Show her you care.
This faggot, I can’t even. It would be sounder advice to tell him to just start banging a waitress on the side.
Meanwhile: Have you taken a long look at the man in the mirror and asked if he really loves his wife?
Well well well, who didn’t see this one coming? Yeah sure your wife may be a selfish slovenly fat piece of shit that nobody not a nigger would want to have sex with but have you stopped for a moment to consider how all of that may actually be your fault?
It was interesting, I thought, you mentioned she was fit and a soccer player and “everything you wanted in a wife,” but not one word about her personality or loving her or being soulmates.
Yeah because actual men with testosterone start at physical attraction. All of that other stuff comes in second. Even with that having been said, let’s be 100% honest here: I hear this claptrap about “her personality” all of the time but how many fat bitches have you ever met IRL have actually had nice personalities?
Seriously, who would take advice from this guy?
Could you have gotten married for the wrong reasons? If so, the sooner you open the Yellow Pages to “Lawyers – Divorce” the better, so she’s still got time to find someone who really loves her.
Sure you were sold a bill of goods when you thought you were marrying a fit in shape sex dynamo and as soon as the ink dried on the one sided contract you found out that what you actually got was Fiona from Shrek minus the cute personality but still the problem actually lies with you for not being happy about it. Perhaps you should divorce her……..so she can find someone better.
He’s probably just intimidated by her strong will power and drive to succeed.
If you can honestly say you love her, then realize: These things go in cycles. According to my calculations, in your eyes she’s been overweight for seven years – a long time, but not that long, really. If you love her, give her more time to get her old self/mojo back.
Yes by all means, waste more years of your life because if there’s one thing that will show her you’re serious about this, it’s continuing to pay for all of her shit while she gets even fatter.
But ultimately motivation has to come from within. She has to want it herself. No amount of hassling or browbeating or encouragement or praise is going to change that.
Yeah don’t worry, as soon as you divorce her fat ass she’ll start dropping the pounds as she goes out and starts making the circuit riding the carousel and hitting the clubs with your money and taking them back to the house that you were forced to give her. The fact of the matter is this stuff isn’t all that difficult. I would suggest that you find someone older than you to confide in and seek advice vs some random so called expert. The fact of the matter all these experts do is repeat the narrative and frame your situation to fit into the confines of that narrative. As for the guy who wrote in, his choices are simple: keep living with her getting ever fatter or give up half your shit and expect about 7 years recovery time. If you are going for option 2 then you are better off doing it sooner rather than later because the older you get the harder it is to make that recovery financially. Over the years I’ve had women ask me what they can do to be a good wife and my answer is always the same: don’t be fat and don’t be a bitch, everything else is negotiable. Outside of something extreme like cucking him with a nigger there is nothing worse you can do to your husband and your marriage than getting fat. Men are wired towards physical attraction whether you like it or not. See how easy that was? And I’m not even an expert. Well, not outside of Nazi circles anyway.